5 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship

• What Are Your Core Values and Priorities?

  • Understanding your personal values and priorities in a relationship is fundamental. Are you looking for deep emotional connections, sexual exploration, companionship, or something else? Knowing what matters most to you helps shape the structure that aligns with your values.

• What Level of Commitment Are You Comfortable With?

  • Determine the extent to which you want to commit to various partners. Are you comfortable with a primary/secondary structure, or do you prefer non-hierarchical relationships? Decide how much time, emotional energy, and commitment you're willing to invest in different partners.

• How Will You Manage Boundaries and Communication?

  • Communication and boundaries are key to ethical non-monogamy. Discuss how you'll handle issues like safer sex practices, time management, and emotional needs. What are the rules and expectations you'll set with your partners to ensure everyone's well-being and consent?

• What's Your Approach to New Relationships?

  • Consider how you'll navigate new relationships. Will you inform existing partners when you start seeing someone new? What level of transparency do you want to maintain regarding your involvement with others? Establish your expectations for introducing new partners to your existing relationships.

• What If Jealousy or Insecurity Arises?

  • It's essential to address the possibility of jealousy and insecurity. Ask how you plan to handle these emotions when they arise. Will you discuss them openly with your partners, seek support from a therapist, or use specific strategies to manage these feelings?